Did Your Ex Boyfriend Appreciate You?

One of the things repeatedly discussed on this blog is the notion of becoming more of what your ex boyfriend wants. That could be as simple as changing your hair to something more complex like changing your demeanor. This advice is offered as a strategy for getting your ex back, but it is not always appropriate if you are happy with who you are.

We've all heard the saying that you can't love someone else unless you love yourself. This is probably true for most people which is why you have to be careful about changing yourself to match the needs of your ex. The fact is that not every woman is compatible with every man, and although it is tough to lose someone you love, sometimes things just don't work out. What you have to decide is if it you WANT to make changes in your life to better accommodate your ex's needs.

One thing you should ponder before making any lifestyle adjustments is whether or not your ex boyfriend appreciated you. Sure he may of had some pet peeves that he would have changed, but did he embrace the time you spent together? Were you able to make him laugh and smile when things were going bad? If you answered yes, then your relationship at least shows some signs of promise if you can smooth out the differences.

On the other hand, if you don't think he appreciated you then I might suggest moving on as opposed to making significant changes in your life. I mean, what if you succeed? What if you win him back with your new appeal and are then forced to live a fake identity just to keep him happy? You will likely heal your broken heart but it will be at the cost of your values and goals. There are simply too many fish in the sea to suffer this fate.