Control Your Anger

When the anger stage of your breakup hits you, it is better to isolate yourself by taking a walk or going into your bedroom. You can vent your agressions, but it is much better (and afer) to do them without anyone seeing.

Then decide what course of action to take. Make sure it is an action where you are able to handle your anger constructively. Punching someone out or telling a someone off is not handling your anger appropriately.

It also helps to find a good friend who will let you use him as a sounding board. Someone you can call day or night, who will listen to you about your problems and feelings. Promise to do the same for that person at some future time.

If you can't find a friend to "vent" to, buy a journal. Some people find writing out their feelings in a private place where no one else will see it helpful. Or write a letter to the object of your anger. Write everything you want to tell that person. After you are done, either rip it up or put it through a paper shredder.

Finding ways to release your anger in a controlled manner will help you get over your breakup. Soon the anger will go down and you get concentrate on what you want to do next.